3 Expert Tips For Your Sex Life At Menopause
My guest on the blog this week, Jane Steckbeck
is passionate about empowering women about their sexuality. And as a clinical sexologist and intimacy coach this is her topic!
And in this blog Jane has 3 practical tips and one big attitude to share with us on how to have empowered sexuality and a great relationship with yourself during & after menopause.
Why we need to talk about menopause and your sex life
This blog came about because when I asked how you were celebrating Valentine's day, I received answers like these:
Divorced: I'm divorced so there's no one in my life, so I'm not doing anything romantic or sexual.
Low Libido I'm single but ready to start looking for a relationship, but what man will be interested in a relationship with someone who has no interest in sex.
Lost Interest I'm still totally in love with my partner but I'm just not interested in sex anymore.
Why does it matter? Why shouldn't the sexual part of your life be over at menopause?
As Jane says: If you're not celebrating because don't have partner, your libido is down, or sex has become uncomfortable due to dryness, you're missing a huge opportunity to be your own best lover and still a have a good romantic time and connect deeply with yourself.
Becoming your own best lover is a GREAT way to spark your libido at midlife whether you have a partner or not.
As Chinese medicine says, a healthy sex life is important for your mental and physical health. We say having just the right amount of sexual activity (not too much, not too little) is the best thing for your health during your whole life.
It shouldn't be over because:
Because it doesn't have to be. Because it feels good. Because it's ours for the claiming. Because it helps us feel happy, beautiful, connected, in love with our own bodies, fulfilled, loved, and satisfied. Because it can put this special smile on your face that makes everyone else wonder what you've been up to and why you look so glowing...
Plus click here for Jane's blog with help finding a new partner at midlife.
So start with this one big attitude
Develop an attitude of reverence towards your body
Stand in AWE of your body.
The starting point is to stand up and say I want to OWN my sexuality. We have to be the ones to turn ourselves on.
Try going out into the world feeling your inner flirt - the world will look at you differently (talk about attractive.)
Developing this reverence, this self love, this deep and loving relationship with yourself and owning your own sexuality has some great benefits. It'll help:
Getting our sexuality right is part of coming into our wisdom. It's no longer about what a partner wants and what pleases them. It's time to make sure we're asking, "What pleases me?"
And in Chinese Medicine menopause is known as The Second Spring and is a time of blossoming. It's not meant to be the end of your sex life - just a great new chapter.
How do you develop this feeling of Reverence?
Try starting with mirror work. CLICK HERE for a blog post from Jane on how to get started.
Then use these 3 practical tips for great sex after 40, 50, 60, and beyond
Learn what turns you on
Learn what turns you on by self pleasuring - yes that means masturbate. Think it's not as good as sex with a guy or you won't get as turned on? Check out what Jane has to say about it in the video.
There are so many good reasons to do it:
How to get started
Jane reports that women come to her in distress all the time because they tried to have intercourse penis just would not insert. She says what happens is that from disusue, the muscles can become so tight there's no room - it's like a blockage.
So include penetrative sex as a regular part of your masturbation. There are great tools that can help you get started like a dilator kit (without vibration) or the Femani Wand. Both come in a kit with different sizes - so you can start small and gradually work your way up, getting the muscles to relax again, without ever having any pain.
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Caring for your most delicate tissues
Will help you stay comfortable during sex whether it's with yourself or a partner. Even if you're not having sex, taking good care of your tissues will help you be ready for it in the future.
It can also help protect you against UTIs, incontinence, and pain.
Here's how to get started
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Stay fit for yourself
Whether it's walks, weights, dancing, or swimming, find some kind of exercise you like - and do it.
Because if your'e healthy and fit you'll have a radiance, vibrancy, and health for feeling good in your body and for attracting partner.
Plus increasing muscle mass means more testosterone, which means more libido.
Bottom line: When we're fit we feel better and were more attractive to ourself and partner or potential partners.
Don't miss this opportunity
We invite you to take this journey:
Because as Jane says,
"If you haven't yet, take this journey to become sexually empowered.
Not only will you find pleasure on your own terms, but you'll find a kick-ass self confidence emerges.
As women raised western culture we don't own our sexuality unless we mindfully claim it. So start doing that now whether you're partnered or single. Even if you feel you've lost your libido or sex has become painful - this invitation is open to every woman in ALL the years during & after menopause."
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